Judgement
How might your relationship change with something if you have less judgment about it? For example, if I can manage to not judge my brother as a failure maybe I can see some of the good things that he has done. Or if I can not judge students in the commons at lunch as really loud and obnoxious, maybe I can enjoy being around them.
To judge is to look at the bad things and think about a good subject as bad subject. Judgmental people tend to not learn about people because they just make something up in their head about how they look and they never get to meet new people.